2 Things I Say To My Kids Everyday
A few days ago I read an article titled “10 Things to Say to Your Kids Everyday.”
It was a well written article with a positive, encouraging message.
Like the author of the article, I believe in providing my boys with a positive message each day. However when it comes to what they remember me saying each day I hope they will know in their heart two things…..two really important things.
#1: “I Choose You”
Our daily exchange, typically at night, goes like this:
Me: “Drew, if I had every 8 year old boy in the world lined up, who would I choose to be my son?”
Drew: “You would choose me!”
The purpose of this conversation is to ensure they undoubtedly know they are chosen, loved, and accepted.
Greater than ever before, our culture has created a need for acceptance. As my boys grow older and head out in to this world, I want them to always know they are chosen and accepted by those who love them most.
#2 : “You Are My Son”
Our conversation goes like this:
Me: “Hunter, why do I love you?”
Hunter: “Because I am your son.”
As their Dad, one of my most important duties is to ensure they undoubtedly know that their Mom & Dad’s love is in no way tied to performance….performance in a class room, performance on a ball field, performance in life. I love them simply because they are my sons.
Why do I have these two specific conversations with my boys each day?
Because as a child of God, I do not have to compete with others for His love.
Because as a child of God, my identity in Christ is never tied to my own performance.
Because as a parent, it is my responsibility to reflect the image of God in my home.
If you have children, develop your own messages. Speak truth into their life.
Do this every day; and make them count.
Brad Flurry 
May 29, 2015 at 8:52 am
This is beautiful! It speaks to my heart, because as I shared with you before, I have been telling our son that if God lined up all the boys around the world in one line, I would always pick him! And I’ve been telling him that since he was about 5. And every time he leaves the house, I always tell him: Be careful and I love you! And I always hear back “I love you too”…from my 21 year old 200 lb. bodybuilder…who will always be my baby, no matter how big, or old he gets! I love that he has known that he’s loved and chosen! Your blog is awesome, very encouraging! Keep up the great blogging!
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May 29, 2015 at 8:59 am
Thanks Stephanie. Sounds like you and your son have a special relationship!
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May 29, 2015 at 11:40 am
Brad, I am forwarding this to my special boy who is 40 and the father to my awesome grandchildren!
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May 29, 2015 at 12:49 pm
Thanks Mary Lou. Honored to serve with you!
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May 29, 2015 at 12:47 pm
Good word, Brad. I will forward this post to my Band of Fathers core group. I know they will appreciate reading your post. Thanks for leading by example.
Omar~
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May 29, 2015 at 3:22 pm
Wow – such an on target message to always reinforce love and assusrance to your sons. Thank you, Brad, for setting the bar very high to make such a positive difference in the lives of Drew and Hunter!
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May 29, 2015 at 10:02 pm
Thanks son for being the best Father ever to my grandsons. Love you for being you & for setting a great example for Drew & Hunter.
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May 29, 2015 at 4:15 pm
Love this!
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June 27, 2015 at 7:37 am
Thank you Brad. This is such a good word. The world tells us every thing, even love is conditional, performance based. This post speaks His truth!
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